On her journey of self-discovery…

If you are reading this, then you know that your journey of healing from childhood trauma, low self-esteem, intergenerational trauma, and other uncomfortable experiences that may have negatively impacted your healing journey, is unique as a black woman. More of us in the Diaspora are becoming more comfortable in expressing our pains, hurt, and conflicting ideals with at least one of the major religions, family secrets, systemic racism and more.


Wherever you may be on your journey of self-discovery, these 5 books are dedicated to spiritual, emotional, and mental enlightenment.
Plus, they’ve helped me so much on my journey that I check back in with those I have read often as a reference.


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1. Value in The Valley a black girl’s guide to life’s dilemmas by Iyanla Vanzant

I got my hands on this book in the summer of 2018 after yet another “why me” moment. I had begun skimming through Iya’s books before, but hadn’t really indulged in any specific one of hers. I found this book to be fitting for the situation that I was dealing with at the time and it helped me cope through it.


A brief synopsis: “Is it the job you hate but need in order to pay the rent? Is it that relationship that you gave your all to, only to end up with a broken heart…again? Those everyday challenges, obstacles, and dilemmas are what Iyanla calls valleys. As bad as they may seem, there is a purpose or, as Iyanla says, “There is so much value in the valley.”


If you have read my bookUnspoken Chronicles of A Sidechick: A Poetic Memoiryou may remember me mentioning “returning to your womb order to heal.” Iyanla also references listening to your divine mother in order to nurture your being while learning your lessons and seeing, “The Value in The Valley”


Read more of the synopsis or to get a sample of the book click here


2. 10 Bad Choices That Ruin Black Women’s Lives by Dr. Grace Cornish


This book is somewhat similar to value in the valley, however it’s centered around decisions black women make regarding their love life that may not yield their desired outcome. I actually got this book for free .99 at my cousin’s annual yard sale. Also skimming through this book, words about the authors childhood experience with growing up fatherless and witnessing domestic violence in her household, compelled me to keep the book and read it for later. As a young black wombman in her 20’s, this book has helped me avoid making decisions that could have long-term negative effects on my career, love life, family life, and more.

A brief synopsis: Dr. Cornish speaks to unique aspects of the African-American female psyche by targeting ten of the most common and foolish choices black women make in their lives regarding men, and how they can correct these problems.

3. Grasping the Root of Divine Power by HRU Yuya T. Assaan-ANU

There are many black women who are finding themselves connecting with their ancestral wisdom and tapping into their spirituality aside from what their religious beliefs are. This book comes recommended as it is still a reference for me as I continue to develop my spiritual foundation and practices. It takes you on a journey that you can conceptualize and begin formulating your own practices. It also gives insight and understanding on what you may be experiencing if you grew up in a household of the major religions and now find yourself curious or engaging in activities such as, but not limited to, yoga, burning sage or other herbs, meditation, or praying to your ancestors.


A brief synopsis: “Grasping the Root of Divine Power” clarifies the fundamental concepts used in any occult system. The work pulls mainly from West African tradition but, is brought up to date using modern examples and guides for immediate application.”


4. What a Time to Be Alone by Chidera Eggerue

This book came to me right.on.time. as I was researching “books about self-love for black women” At the time, I was highly disgruntled, frustrated, and getting impatient again with the “Process”.

I stumbled upon this book on Ravenrosado.net, as it came recommended by her. “Finish where you are,” one of the quotes in Slumflowers book, that resonated perfectly with me in that moment. I also had to get this book because it shares tips to help you with a few things:

  1. Learn how to celebrate YOU decide your self worth, take time to heal and empower yourself in this messy world.
  2. Don’t worry about THEM avoid other people’s demons and realize that everyone is protecting themselves from something no matter how aggressive their method.
  3. Feel the togetherness in US sustain and grow healthy relationships and avoid toxicity in your friendships.

(which is also in the books’ synopsis as to why I didn’t list it here)

5. Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur

One of the first poetry books I actually have read and was inspired or related to each prose/poem. This beautifully written book you to feel vulnerable, open, and understood in your experiences with love and heartache.

A brief synopsis: Each chapter serves a different purpose. Deals with a different pain. Heals a different heartache. Milk and Honey takes readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness everywhere if you are just willing to look.


Are there any self-help books that you’ve read? Have you read any of these books listed? #BeUnspoken in the comments and let me know your thoughts!