“As we become in touch with our ancient power as women, we relinquish European ideologies as the only way of experiencing this the called life.”

Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde p. 25

Just to let ya’ll know, this might be…a bit of a ramble. Anyway, let’s get right into it.

Trying to process my own experiences while creating content my readers, followers, and audience will benefit from has been tough lately. I hadn’t been able to find the words for the way I go about creating content on my social media sites. Constantly trying to “keep up” without honoring my feelings of actually not wanting to. I don’t want to push through…at least not right now.

Once I unfollowed, unfriended, and unsubscribe from people who were definitely not in alignment with my interests or beliefs, I was able to see those who were more clearly. And then it hit me…




  1. using or based on what one feels to be true even without conscious reasoning; instinctive.

I have been intuitively channeling messages to followers and in my content creation process. I didn’t recognize my moon sign, which is LEO btw, was really showing up and owt this whole time.

And other self-limiting beliefs that no longer serve me…

The truth about promoting uplifting content or trying to create it…being a self-love blogger has it’s pros and cons. Although most things do, the pros and cons for being a self-care blogger…influencer… *rolls eyes*are a bit different.

Here’s what I mean…

1. Self-Accountability

You must learn to hold yourself accountable. Practice what you preach, if you will. You can go at a pace that’s suitable for you, not influenced by what other influencers on social media are doing. Especially when you’re in the beginning stages of finding your tribe and mainly a “lone wolf”.

For example:

Morning routines look like either setting intentions, writing affirmations, chopping it up with my ancestors, having tea and/or writing in my planner


I’m plagued with emotions and thoughts and find myself trying to process by talking through my emotions in bed for the next hour… before I actually get up to get my day started.

Keeping yourself accountable when you’re in this niche can be tough if you are true to your calling, your mission, and leading by example.

2. Walking Away

You’ll be walking away from things, places, and people that no longer serve you. What you want for yourself may not align with who you once were. Or who other people thought you were or were going to be. That includes family, friends, etc. And if you’re like me, it may come as a surprise that it is actually those people. Especially when those people start to tell you how they really feel about your changes that are best for you. Walking away from family traditions and into the possibilities of being rejected by others, it can be isolating.

Your beliefs, perceptions, and whole way of wanting to live changes. You become what they call the “black sheep” of the family. When really you’re the genetic reset. The repaired cell. The first millionaire. The chosen one.

3. We’re still dealing with our own sh*t (human)

I think my biggest struggle right now would have to be imposter syndrome. I’m learning that it’s actually rooted deep within my core beliefs. And those core beliefs about ourselves…babyyyy.

Nevertheless, I think I’ve rambled long enough. This is my truth about being a self-love blogger. I’ve got more living to do. I’m not sure if learning to live and living to love co-exist with my endeavors I’ve been doing thus far on my own for the wombman unspoken. One thing you gone know about me and how I do things is rooted in AUTHENTICITY. When I’m not feeling it or whatever other reason there may be, I take a break or I’ll say, “I’m not feeling it” PERIOD. I’m normalizing truths of not being okay, in this space. It doesn’t mean I’ve never been ok or discredits any other achievements I’ve made in my self-care practices or my self-love journey. Some people tend to make comments that way towards me. As if they are projecting their perception onto me. My emotions and my heart has been healing lately, and there’s been a lot of cleansing with tears (crying), Florida water, cool spring water, and journaling. So for now, I’m taking a break from blogging and will be back in October.

My Takeaways tho…

This current space I’m in has given me these revelations about myself. I want to share them with you, as they may inspire some thought for you on your self-love journey, wherever you are…

  1. Surround yourself with like-minded people
  2. Have patience, grace, and compassion for yourself.
  3. Healing actually does take some time
  4. Do what’s best for you
  5. Be willing to leave your comfort zone for opportunities that will help you grow

I am interested in collabs and connecting in the near future. So feel free to shoot me an email wombmanunspoken@gmail.com. Thank ya’ll for understanding.

With love + gratitude,